8 % Happier with James Wogan, MFT, LCSW

When I first heard Dan Harris, he was on podcast with Sam Harris and I thought, “he stole my idea. “ I have used percentages and scale of 1-10 as a therapist since I lived in Tokyo, Japan. I said “8 % happier… “What percent is on you? (ownership question). “On a scale of 1-10, how angry are you?” and things like that for years.

Here was Dan Harris, the f’n host of Good Morning America Weekend Edition (fcol), using the title “10% Happier.” Oh hell no, he’s taking my idea. No wait, we haven’t met…. or had we? (suspicious face hmmmmm)?. I started going over a list of my famous friends (that was quick), the famous people I’ve seen as a therapist (that was quicker), then the parties at the US Embassy, Canadian Consulate, and other high falootin’ places I’ve been over the years. Nope. Nada. We never met. So I concluded, “great minds think alike.” Oh wait, except, the approaches I use in therapy I’ve mostly learned from children and teenagers in schools, patients at Kaiser, rehab, and from my private practice, and um, they don’t actually include meditation. Go figure.

とにかく izureni shitemo (in any case), check out this video by Dan Harris, learn how to meditate in 5 minutes.

SEXUAL CONSENT IS:

VOLUNTARY 

Not pressured or rushed

Can withdraw consent at any time

VERBAL 

expressed clearly 

CLEAR

No confusion

NO always means NO. 

Only YES means YES 

ONGOING

Consent before and during sexual encounter

REPEATED

Discussed more than once. Confirmed at each level of sexual activity

Confirmed again on different days 

AWARENESS 

All parties are fully informed.  Not impaired by alcohol or drugs.  Not pressured or rushed 

REQUIRED 

Consent is not assumed from clothing, social media, dancing, or body language 

Sex without consent is a felony (rape). 

UNDERSTOOD 

Talking openly with each other about consent and sexuality is healthy.  

Mutual consent increases intimacy.  

It’s okay to be unsure, or change your mind. 

Sometimes talking about consent leads teenagers to delay having sex. 

Amid rapidly changing technology and the ever-changing new normal, Title IX, equity, and civil rights call out. Kids know youth culture what it’s like to be a teenager rn. We learn the most from the young people we serve.

Photo credit: Image posted for public to see at Alameda County Office of Education. Srry, I don’t (yet) know the artist’s name.