It might not be rationale, but family and friends can get mad at a loved ones who have mental health conditions.
At the same time, people with mental health conditions can feel guilty for “bringing others down” and ashamed for not being healthy.
It can be hard to distinguish volitional behavior from behavior that is a “symptom.”
With support and education, friends and family members learn to separate the condition from the person. Along the lines of Narrative Therapy, the patient also learns to “externalize” the problem.
“Person-first” language helps. She’s not a depressed person, she’s a person who happens to have depression. The diagnosis doesn’t define her.
As is the case with physical health and life, vicissitudes are part of the mental health journey.
It gets better. You’re not alone.